How to manage people: parting words of psychologists
For success in work, business and personal life, sometimes it is not enough to be able to establish contact with surrounding people and resist manipulators. Sometimes you need to be able to go on the offensive.
This interesting and very attractive forpower-hungry people - how to manage people - always excited representatives of different professions: managers, politicians, sectarians, psychotherapists, businessmen. A high need for such knowledge provided the study of the issue by several sciences: first of all, management and psychology.
And today the question - how to manage people, hasseveral answers. Manipulation, on the other hand, is 90% of all methods of human management considered by mankind. They are effective and simple, because they are based on psychological laws. Everyone is susceptible to feelings: we are sometimes ambitious, and everyone yearns for recognition, respect. This is what manipulators play - on the basic feelings and needs of a person.
The remaining 10% can be given by rightcalled "energy systems". According to the adherents of this strange theory (scientifically unjustified): in the world there is a higher mind and, by touching it, one can break out of parasitic ties and become the manager of one's life, destiny and surrounding people. An energetic parasite is called adherents of this theory of those who have learned to connect to the energy of the surrounding people, to eat it for their own good. This ideological theory is not based on scientifically derived and proven regularities of human behavior, unlike manipulation. But it still exists and so is liked by most ignorant people simply because it promises a quick result. But, alas, only practice and psychological knowledge can give you what you want.
The ability to manage people is half the success in all spheres of a person's life. Not surprisingly, everyone wants to master perfection by these methods.
Hence a new question - how to learn how to managepeople? The answer of the psychologist will be unambiguous: to manipulate in extreme cases and never to harm. This is the main principle of the work of adherents of humane science. However, representatives of other professions neglect this parting word. Both managers and politicians are only interested in the 100% result of achieving this goal.
Therefore, not only simplemanipulation (poorly veiled, playing on the feelings inherent in everyone, for example, on the desire to please, to be recognized), but also complex psychological attacks aimed at a particular person, taking into account his psychological characteristics. Attack is also called that because its strength is increasing with time, providing a lasting result of a purposeful influence on another person. The most "modest" example of such an attack is concluded in the well-known aphorism: "Lies repeated repeatedly become true".
In recent years, audio courses have been actively published,books describing a variety of manipulation techniques, special training programs were developed (for example, sales techniques or receptions for effective communication between a realtor and clients). The last method of teaching is the most effective. In the group of people who are eager to learn how to manipulate, every participant of the training in practice acquires the necessary skills. Will only bring them to the level of skills.
Yes, there are several tricks how to manage people. It is quite possible to master them. It is only necessary to constantly train on all those around you, first for the sake of experience, and then for a specific main goal. But is it worth it? After all, an intelligent person will not get manipulated (at least, simple), and then you lose the trust of relatives, friends, colleagues, partners ...
It is much better to learn to negotiate, honestlydiscussing problems, their needs with close people and even partners. This is how the strongest relations are built: on mutual understanding (look for a common language), on the ability to compromise (points of contact), on the ability to state your point of view and accept someone else's.
In addition, power over others is dangerous. She turns her head, and you gradually lose humanity: the ability to sympathize, empathize. At the heart of the matter are put only their own interests. But we must always remember that not weak people are manageable. Everyone has a moment of weakness. And someday the manipulator will meet a stronger person and also become a victim ...
Therefore, instead of looking for an answer to the question of how to manage people, it is better to learn to defend themselves against manipulators and encourage honesty, appreciate trusting relationships.