How to save the peace of the soul - 8 tips
If you verbally portray a portrait of a modern person, you’ll get a not very attractive picture: he constantly fusses, hurries, thinks how to make more money, how everything is tired, often condemns others and envies. Peace of mind does not fit into his schedule. How to change this?
“Vanity of vanities” is one of the aphorisms to which we owe the Bible. These words from the book of Ecclesiastes very successfully characterize the life of modern man. In daily bustle, he is increasingly moving away from God and forgetting about the meaning of life, his attention is scattered.
What to do to find peace in the soul? Seekers of easy ways will have to be disappointed right away: it won't be easy, but the main thing is that it is real.
The spiritual world is a special state of man, when he reconciled with God and humanity, knows the purpose of his life. The first thing that outwardly distinguishes such a person is calm. It comes as a result of trusting in the will of God. This is the realization that the Lord loves us very much and knows exactly what we need for salvation.
Every day, such a person is tempted by the most “exquisite” sins, experienced by sorrows, but he still stands firm and does not succumb to demonic provocations. He reconciled with himself, God and mankind. Here are some tips written off from the lives of saints and people who came to God, who were able to achieve peace of mind.
1. Revise your whole life and do spring cleaning - confession
First you need to get rid of what loads us, makes you fuss. What does a person need for life and what is the ultimate goal of his existence? Surely it is not to constantly chase after money, take care of material well-being, lose health, earning for an apartment, a car, vacation abroad and clothes from world brands. With such a supply of garbage in your head you cannot find peace of soul.
A person living in a certain social group tries to conform to it. Very often, it simply exhausts and replaces the real life with a show-off theater “who is better,” “I can do that too.” A person is even interested not in what he is interested in, but in what they say in the circle of his intercourse.
So it turns out that he constantly thinks about how to manage everything, how to get saturated, what to put in reserve, what to wear, what angle to take pictures of, what others will think about him.In this vanity of vanity there is no place for God and prayer, for the soul world, the meaning of existence is lost — to be saved and to remain in eternal life with the Lord.
When a person realizes this and wants to change, he should go to confession and repent before God. But not formally, reading the prepared cheat sheet - a list of sins.
It is necessary to sincerely open your heart, deliver it from sinful garbage. Such a confession can last 30–40 minutes, supplemented by the priest’s advice and a stream of tears from the penitent. After such a purification, it really becomes easier for a person, it even becomes clear in his head. But it is no less important to maintain this order further, because after a collision with sin, it can turn into the previous chaos.
2. Filter thoughts and listen to the voice of conscience.
Any sin begins with a thought. Every minute, demons send a man a lot of surprises and watch what fishing rod he bites. If you learn to immediately filter these thoughts, do not pay attention to sinful ones, then we will be able to keep our sanity pure.
The Holy Fathers advise every evening to sum up the past day, to remember what he sinned, to repent of it, to thank the Lord for all the mercies He sends us.If sinful thoughts come up or overcome some kind of passion, you need to create the Jesus prayer or "Virgin Mary, rejoice." Demons can not tolerate this, and retreat.
3. Attention to your own sins
It is necessary to keep very carefully the state of the spiritual world and purity that a person received after a sincere confession and holds it with the help of control over his own thoughts.
Of course, completely get rid of the vices in all their manifestations will not succeed. Therefore, it is important to get rid of, until they have overcome a man. As soon as conscience gives a signal that the “enemy” is approaching, we must immediately block his path. Then it will be much easier to get rid of the consequences.
For example, the devil tempts a man with drunkenness. First, he shoves him one glass, then the second, third ... If a person does not see the threat, then the next time the "circumstances" will turn out so that he will definitely have to drink "for the health" of friends. Then again there is a reason, more, more ...
A person will not even have time to look back, as he doesn’t even need a reason to drink. He simply can not use. If before tormented conscience, but now - the impossibility of a hangover.But if a person stopped even then, after the first pile, the passion would not be able to seize him and destroy his spiritual world.
4. “Judge not, that you be not judged.”
One of the biggest and most common vices of modern man is idle talk and condemnation. Friends gathered together, it is necessary to talk for five hours in a row about men, beauty, tips from glossy magazines, fashion, about how good they are and how bad everyone else is. It is necessary to condemn Dasha’s girlfriend, who doesn’t care about herself at all, all gone into the family, the tasteless costume of the boss, the hama-watchman, and even individuals from election posters. And how does the Rev. Seraphim of Sarov teach? "In order to preserve the peace of the soul ... one should avoid condemning others."
If a person goes deep inside himself, sees his sins and tries to change, rather than press everyone under his whims, then he simply has no time to condemn others. Moreover, he sees his own unworthiness, condemns himself and tries to correct himself, but treats his neighbor with attention and love, sees in each the image of God. If someone does something wrong, then he, on the contrary, is looking for excuses for such actions.
5. Do not disperse attention, talk less about politics and watch news less.
A worldly person cannot completely separate himself from what is happening in the country, on the continent, or even on the scale of the planet. But he definitely needs to filter the information that he faces every day. News of war, murder, and robbery can provoke condemnation and anger, and the topics of politics and nationality are not accidentally included among the most controversial, quarrels and misunderstandings. Peace at heart? No, I have not.
Very wise advice on this issue is given by the schiigumen Ioann (Alekseev):
6. Desire good to everyone
God gave life to every person. In each remained the imprint of the Creator. He who abides in harmony with God loves people and sincerely wishes them well. Look at the monks: they devote their whole lives to serving the Lord and ... people. How? In long prayers they ask God not only for themselves, but for all of humanity.
Demons repeatedly tempt everyone with pride, pride and envy. Like, why work for others, they are ungrateful! And your neighbor's house is more comfortable, the wife is more beautiful, the children are better educated, and dinner is more delicious. Such thoughts eat a person from inside.
To gain peace of the soul, it is necessary to get rid of a destructive negative.After all, you can bring up another way of thinking in yourself: yes, it means that a neighbor deserves this, and I have what I have for my sins.
7. In all things rely on the will of God and in any situation thank the Most High.
It takes time and a certain spiritual experience in order to understand: only the will of the Most High is good for man. After all, He loves people so much that he became incarnate and, for the sake of redemption of mankind, took a painful and humiliating death. God wants the salvation of everyone. The Lord has no mercantile interests (this is generally alien to Him).
Everything that God sends to man serves to save him. Each situation, each counter - it is not just. Therefore, we must thank the Lord for everything and ask Him to teach us to seek His will. Are you not happy when relatives, friends, colleagues agree with you? When a person's will coincides with the plan of the Creator, an amazing harmony arises, a person finds peace of mind.
8. Learn to be patient and humble, remember that by suffering the tribulation a person is purified.
You must have seen how calm and detached monks look, especially of old age? Were they not amazed at the courage of mothers,who saw death for the faith of their children?
In front of the martyrs Sophia brutally killed her three daughters - Faith, Hope, Love. What was the mother who carried them under her heart? But the saint acquired enormous patience, humility, and trust in the will of the Creator to endure so many sorrows. In her own way, she was even happy for her children, because after such torments they were awaited by paradise monasteries.
Nikolai Berdyaev writes that the war benefits humanity, in the sense that people are beginning to understand that material goods are not at all important, they are becoming more sensitive to human grief. By the transfer of such sorrows and the realization that they are sent for sins, people are purified.
But such methods of finding peace in the soul will not suit everyone. We must have great faith and courage to bear it without reproach. One must have trust in God and an understanding of the words from the prayer “Our Father”: “Thy will be done.”