Memorial prayer binds us to the departed
When we part with people who have departed into eternity, we continue to associate with themmemorial prayerin which we ask God to have mercy on the departed.
For this, they arrange a memorial dinner at which people pray for the deceased. And besides relatives, they often call the needy, who can thank no other than their own prayers for the soul of the deceased.
The church prays for the departed on the days of universal commemoration established by the charter, as well as at the request of their loved ones: on the anniversary of death, on their birthdays, on the days of the birthday (memory of their heavenly patrons), etc. Anyone who wants to remember in the church another world, must write a note with their names. It can only indicate baptized members of the Orthodox Church who have not renounced the faith and have not laid hands on themselves. Of course, it is very desirable that relatives who orderedmemorial prayerthemselves participated in the service in which it will sound.
Especially often and diligently it is necessary to commemorate the departed in the first forty days after their death, when the soul is just beginning its journey in the afterlife. Believers from the first day read the Psalm with a prayer for the repose of the departed. On the third, ninth and fortieth days they order in the temple a commemoration at the liturgy (on the proskomidii) about the repose of the newly-reposed. In this case, the day of death is considered the first day. After the liturgy in the temple are a requiem. In addition to the note, it is customary to make an offering on it — various products that church parables will distribute to the needy. Thanks to this almsmemorial prayerfor the dead will lift many people.
Remembering a loved one is necessary in his daily home prayer, and during a visit to his grave. It is good if the priest serves in the memorial day at the cemetery on the memorial day. But you can read it yourself. In many prayer books there is “the rite of the litia, performed by the lay person at home and in the cemetery”.