Signs of the fact that you are badly affected by your parents but you do not realize it
In Western terminology, these people are called"Toxic". And sometimes they are difficult to recognize, especially if they are your parents who love you, and you are theirs. "Family toxicity" is something that children usually realize only when they become adults. It can be alcoholic parents or simply too strict parents who do not limit themselves in statements to your address.
But the result will be the same in any case:
It's hard for you to trust people
This is the main problem. If the parents who were supposed to be your most important support did not support you, you could not trust them, then it will be even harder for you to do this with strangers. On the subconscious you will think that everyone will treat you the same way as your parents.
You are very hard to accept failure or failure
Children of toxic parents are very sensitiveperceive something that is not a brilliant success. This is the result of too careful education and constant assurances of the exclusivity of the child, that is you. And because now even a small setback puts you in a depression.
You often have an excessive reaction, which even confuses you
At everyone there are failures. But if you notice that you often react violently to some meaningless things, maybe this hides behind what is left in your head after a toxic education.
You put your emotional needs on last place
You were physically abused by the parent,or verbal, or manipulation and other kinds of toxic behavior, your personal emotional life will always be in the last place in the hierarchy of your needs. It's like your emotional decisions still depend on what they think about you, and not on what will be better for you.
You do not feel connected with yourself in the present
To many children of toxic parents it is difficultIdentify yourself as a person when they grow up. Who am I? What I feel? What do I want? You have suppressed yourself for a very long time, from your emotions to reaction, to please your parents, so that you did not pay attention to your personal development.
Your inner voice is incredibly critical
Children of toxic parents are very lowself-esteem. Their inner voice says they are stupid, insignificant and full of losers. And it is not necessary that the parents tell you all this. Such a message could be transmitted in many ways: from strict control to punishment for the slightest imperfection (as if you could never be good enough).
You often feel responsible for the behavior of your parents
Children of toxic parents are rarely aware,that their parents did something wrong. For them, this is a familiar family situation. If your parents beat you, then you deserve it. If they insulted you, then you did something wrong. If they ignored you, it means that you learn independence.
You can justify your parents for theirbad attitude. After all, we still love them, and we were hammered, that the problem was in us. And it's very difficult to get away from this: from guilt and shame to understanding that it's not our fault.